Relationship Advice
Communication in a Relationship and Its Powers
I don’t think people realize how often they take communication for granted. They wonder why their relationships don’t last when, in fact, they tend to disregard their partners when it comes to facing conflicts. Many conflicts could’ve been solved if it weren’t for the lack of communication; sadly, relationships have been broken because of it. Would you believe asking “How are you feeling today” could ease a person’s day? Indeed, such a little gesture can turn around a person’s heavy feelings.
Do you wonder what life would be like if a person could properly convey their message or understand what we’re trying to relay?
Talking IS NOT The Same as Communicating
There’s a difference between two people talking and two people communicating. One focuses more on speaking, while the other focuses more on understanding the message. It’s quick to mistake one for the other. When talking to someone, people mostly say what they have in mind and then let the receiver handle how it should be received.
While communicating, you first process how much a person can handle this information, analyze if the person can attain such information, and then execute it by informing them in a manner that can be perceived. Communication is analyzing how you can tell a person with one hundred percent understanding of your context.
So what is Communication? Communication is the process of sending information from one person to another and focuses not only on verbal speech but also on non-verbal methods. Some may not know how to speak a language, but they make up for it by finding other ways to communicate with someone.
The Key to a Fruitful Relationship Is Communication
“Come show me your true colors, paint me a picture of you with your true colors”
Relationships are built around trust, love, and communication. Without either of those three, the relationship will never last. With that said, here are ways on how to effectively communicate in a relationship:
#1 Identifying Each Other’s Feelings
Before initiating a conversation between you and your partner, first, identify how you are feeling; will your behavior and emotions greatly affect your communication? Now that you’ve assessed yourself, determine whether your partner is open to talk at the moment; sometimes you’re ready to talk to your partner, but they seem to be emotionally unavailable at the moment or maybe they’re too troubled. Just ask them if now would be a good time to talk to each other.
#2 Don’t Hold Back the Honesty, But Hold Back the Bluntness
Now that you and your partner can converse, don’t be afraid to tell them what’s going on or what’s bothering you about them. Being frank doesn’t necessarily mean you’re honest, and being honest doesn’t mean you’re frank.
If your partner is more of a straightforward person, give it to them immediately; don’t dilly-dally your conversation. Tell them what’s happening, what’s going on with you and when they finally understand the situation, that’s where you can do a little rambling to express what it’s like going through your life.
If your partner doesn’t like the harshness of the blunt and the straightforward, try to add in things that would relate to the situation. Although avoid overwrapping the conversation to a point it becomes another topic.
Treat conversations as if you’re giving a gift. Some people would rather you give the item immediately while some like it nicely wrapped.
#3 Avoid Misusing Details: Not Providing Enough or Providing Too Much
Communication is like painting or art. Sometimes there are too many details to follow and it wouldn’t make sense what’s happening, or sometimes there’s just not enough to complete the picture despite telling what the premise was. When telling something that needs to be said, remember these:
- What’s the point of the conversation
- Why did you want to make this conversation
- What led to the point of this conversation
- How would this conversation affect both of you
Avoiding the Lack of Communication
The point of communicating with your partner is to fortify the foundation of the trust between you two. Whenever something good or something bad happens, don’t be afraid to tell them what you’re feeling. Being able to convey each other’s feelings and opinions helps create a bond between the two. Pride and ego are your 2 main hindrances from communicating effectively. The bottom line is this: Don’t take the power of communication in a relationship for granted.
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