ADVICE
How Constantly Snapping At Your Partner Can Be a Sign Your Relationship is Failing
Arguments in a relationship are more common than you think. Even the healthiest of relationships have seen their fair share of arguments.
Try as you might to get into a sincere and healthy discussion with your partner, it’s still possible to end up in a heated exchange. Misunderstandings, clash of beliefs, missed responsibilities, and even the wrong tone of voice — these are a few of the many reasons why couples argue in the first place.
You can’t expect to always see eye to eye on every issue or topic. There will always be differences between the both of you. You just have to learn how to cooperate and find a way to work around it.
But if these arguments are becoming more frequent and you find yourself becoming short of patience, then it may be a cause for concern.
For example, your partner starts nitpicking at your habits or gives you unwarranted criticism. When you are new to the relationship, you normally have more energy and patience to let it go.
A small argument can often escalate into an explosive fight and before you know it, you start nitpicking and criticizing your partner as well.
If you find that you have less and less patience for the smallest of arguments, that is when you should be concerned.
Before it can get any worse, it’s time to step back and assess: Is it really a simple fight or is there a deeper reason why you are arguing?
Why Small Arguments Can Be a Sign of a Bigger Issue
Picking fights with your partner can indicate a bigger problem at hand. Perhaps there is an issue you and your partner have avoided for a long time. Instead of talking it out, you both let out your frustrations through these small arguments instead.
So before this “small” argument gets out of hand, it’s best to identify what really is the issue. Did you somehow offend her when you went over to her parent’s house? Or did you forget to do the dishes again?
These underlying issues, whether great or small, can become a thorn in your side if you let it drag on for too long. Ignoring the elephant in the room doesn’t make it go away. It will continue to grow until it suffocates everyone in the room.
It’s also possible that your partner has some sort of internal problem. There might be something bugging them and they have been itching to release their frustrations. Albeit, it does not permit them from turning you into collateral damage.
The same thing can apply to you as well. Being upset over a personal problem does not excuse you from dumping your dirty laundry on your partner.
The Best Way to Approach Conflict
Conflict can be a positive tool to resolve issues in a relationship. But if it gets out of hand, it may bring it’s doom instead.
De-escalation is the key to properly. Modulate your voice so it doesn’t seem like you’re shouting. Make an effort to properly process what your partner is trying to explain to you. Try to calm your partner down in the best way you can.
From there, you can start handling your conflict. It’s easier to see eye to eye when you both are level headed. It’s also easier to understand where you are coming from because you know each other so well.
You can’t avoid arguments in a relationship. It’s unrealistic. But what you can do is prevent what you can and deal with whatever slips past.
This makes the ideal groundwork for a stable and happy relationship.
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