ONLINE DATING

A Cinderella Man: The Journey of Finding Love in Online Dating

Lubov Demchuk
5 min readFeb 15, 2024

With a swift wave of a magic wand, Cinderella transformed from a filthy clothed maiden to a beautiful lady surrounded by mystery and allure. She attracted not only the prince but all the people around her.

If you wish for your romantic life to change but realize you have no fairy godmother, what’s left for you to do?

Life can get bitter as it is not a fairy tale. You are not Cinderella, nor do you have a godmother to make your wishes come true. You live in reality, so you have to fend and take care of yourself.

It may sound sad, but it doesn’t mean you can’t turn your love life around. You may not have a fairy godmother or a horse-drawn carriage, but you do have resources you can use to find your princess in this modern world.

So open your mind and heart, and find love online.

Finding New Love in Online Dating

Looking for a new love can be daunting. After what you’ve been through with your previous partners — including traumas and heartbreaks — you’re not sure if you want to go through them again.

Though not an easy path to take, dating is necessary to find your perfect match. Once you do find and meet her, it will all be worth it.

Today’s world relies so much on technology. It’s a given that no matter where you are, screens and buttons dominate before you. And with continuous development, it has blessed us with the innovation we’ve come to know as dating sites and apps, which have helped the world of dating immensely.

You must have heard about online dating several times, and you might have been an online dater before. But whatever the reason why you’re no longer using it anymore matters less now.

Online Dating Platforms as Bridges to Relationships

In a 2019 study by the Pew Research Center, three-in-ten American adults have used an online dating site or app, 11% of them have done so in the past year. In addition, 12% of those users have married and stayed in a committed relationship with a partner they met online.

On another note, six in ten online daters shared that they had a positive online dating experience. Here’s what most of them agreed on:

  • It was easy to share their hobbies and interests with other users;
  • It was easy to find users who found them attractive;
  • It was easy to build a connection with other users; and
  • It was easy to find other users who were looking for the same kind of relationship they want.

Roughly, about 23% of Americans say that they have gone on a date with someone they also met online.

These impressive numbers prove that online dating platforms are effective instruments in creating meaningful connections and relationships with people from all over the world.

Hopefully, they are enough to persuade you to get back in the online dating saddle. Seeing that your chances are equally as high as others, you won’t have much to lose but more to gain in the journey.

Being an Attractively Smart Online Dater

There’s no use trying to differentiate which method is better in finding your match. Whether you do it online or offline, what’s for you will always come — as long as you patiently wait for the one.

Statistics may prove that dating online is as effective as doing it offline. If so, why is it that you’re still here, trying to convince yourself to go online?

What’s an online dater like you to do?

1. Choose the right and reliable dating platform.

Before you sign up for any platform, be wary of your choices. It’s a way to protect yourself from meeting people who have different motives compared to yours.

To narrow down your choices, choose the ones with the best customer service. It’s way better to have someone from the platform who can assist you if you have concerns and troubles when using their service.

2. Create a foolproof profile.

Your photo is a vital part of your dating profile. This is the first thing a dating site user sees when they visit your profile, so make sure it shows the likable characteristics you have.

When writing a description about yourself, always get to the point. Describe your best attributes using no more than 140 characters since no one is interested in reading an essay about you.

Lastly, always state what makes you different from all the other daters. This way, you’ll give your potential partners one thing to remember about you.

3. Be honest.

Know what you’re looking for in a partner, and be transparent with it. It helps you find potential partners worthy of your time. To add, your chances of meeting real matches increase as you show your true self.

4. Keep an open mind.

The chances of you finding your idea of a perfect woman are low, so you have to be flexible in your dating criteria. Know which characteristics are non-negotiable and keep an open mind with your matches.

If they do not embody everything on your list but check a few boxes, give them a chance. Don’t close yourself off to romantic possibilities.

5. Engage in meaningful conversations.

Having conversations helps you get to know someone. It is an opportunity to share your thoughts and gauge your compatibility.

See to it that you’re a good conversationalist. Steer clear of ambiguity and trivial messages because these are considered turnoffs.

6. Own it.

Online dating should be a fun experience. When you feel like you’re incompatible, end things with them and look for other potential partners.

When you encounter setbacks like this, don’t be discouraged.

The Door to a Happier Life

One out of five relationships starts online. This alone speaks volumes about the unthinkable possibilities there are in online dating.

You don’t have to be too attractive or have a wealthy background. You don’t have to be a professional or have an extremely active lifestyle. At the end of the day, you attract potential partners better when you’re comfortable in your skin and honest about who you are.

The screens on your devices are not walls for you to hide behind. Rather, they are the tools you can use to meet the match who will build a life of happiness with you.

Step up your dating game and start your journey into online dating.

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