ROMANCE
Is It a Crush or Is It Love: An Emotion You Cannot Force
Have you ever wondered why you get butterflies in your stomach or feel nervous when you get close to someone you are interested in? Even the merest thought of them can make you feel uneasy and uncomfortable.
With your knowledge on crushes and love at first sight, you then ask yourself, “Is it a crush or is it love?”
This question has been asked time and again, and yet many are still looking for the answer. Feelings of attraction can be many things after all, making them difficult to explain, let alone identify.
How significant are these feelings in your life anyway? With these questions in mind, let’s delve into this age-old topic of debate for the nth time and answer it together once and for all — or at least as best as we possibly can.
Crush
Having a crush on someone who seems unreachable is a sign that you are momentarily and strongly attracted to them. Your sentiments can become abnormally strong and persistent when you’re crushing on someone.
Though they are distinct, a crush and infatuation are very similar. When you have a crush, it’s because you’re drawn to something about someone but hesitate to go further in your relationship with them. However, infatuation has the potential to become serious, and you might express feelings that indicate you want to pursue the person.
Most of the time, a crush is intense and doesn’t last long, but oftentimes it can be prolonged too. It’s acceptable to be simply drawn to someone based on their qualities. Rarely, though, does an attraction turn into an obsession that lasts for a long time. This results in an abnormal amount of admiration for that particular individual.
Love
Love on the other hand gives you a sense of commitment towards someone. Love leads people to sacrifice deeper aspects of themselves for the sake of a relationship.
People who are in love are at peace with their partners. Sometimes, they do not feel the butterflies in their stomach but they can feel comfort and serenity when they are together. It is realistic in many ways and has the ability to last unconditionally. Take a look at some of the Western men happily married to foreign women as an example.
What to Remember
A relationship usually starts from a crush. If that feeling is nurtured and handled appropriately, it gives two people a chance to get to know each other better and develop a deeper and more meaningful connection, usually leading to a successful relationship. But whether it is a crush or love that you uncontrollably feel towards someone, your emotions are valid.
A crush and love are both unique emotions that you experience at least once in your lifetime. However, we can not argue that love is something that we cannot force. Love is infinite and does not require conditions to feel it. Love is not selfish, encompassing even the welfare of the other.
With all these diverse beliefs about emotions, we must not forget to be vigilant on our own. We only have ourselves to identify and drive out what we feel. The power to control where our emotions lead us to is in our hands. So whether it’s a crush or love, YOU get to decide what happens to it.
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