Relationship Advice
Recovering From Relationship Burnout | Getting Off the Slump
“I was full of love, but now I’m out of life.”
There comes a time when a couple questions themselves, “Do I still want this?” You start to notice that the happiness in the relationship is fading; the interaction with your partner has drastically changed, and it’s increasingly suspicious. It’s not your usual trouble in paradise nor the calm after the storm; it feels eerie. You start to feel indifferent; everything seems different; it doesn’t sit right with you. Every fight now feels the same; you lost the will to compromise; at this point, you want to give up. That’s burnout.
What Is Relationship Burnout and the Signs You Experience
How do you know if you’re experiencing burnout? There are many factors, but indifference towards anything in the relationship is the biggest indicator. There’s no passion or energy when you do activities together as a couple — it’s relationship burnout. It’s that feeling of hopelessness where the two of you are just there, existing in the same space but at the same time far away from each other.
The fights are intense, but the resolution is gone; the determination to fix things is obsolete. All of the issues you want to take care of, you don’t want to do anything about them anymore. To sum it up in one word, “hopeless.” When one experiences these things, he tends to be like a zombie — a person living without a soul, just a body walking without purpose.
They become too cynical to believe in things; the intimacy with their partner has been diminished. A person can go through something traumatic, or their partner has done something to them that was so drastic that it overwhelmed them, and at this point, everything they do seems futile.
How to Overcome Burnout in a Relationship or From a Relationship
Handling conflicts is already difficult, but how much more can a person handle burnout in a relationship? At some point, they need to start moving on and create a better outcome for themselves. Here are a few tips for overcoming your burnout:
Breathe:
Being burned out leads you to become an impulsive or uncontrollable person; you will become overwhelmed. Take a step back, don’t pressure yourself, and allow yourself to breathe. Take matters slowly and allow yourself to see things from a different perspective. But why do you need to see it from a different perspective? Every time burnout in a relationship happens, visions become clouded with negativity from all the circumstances. So take things slowly and learn to breathe.
Encouragement:
With all the negativity that’s happening, you will need encouragement, whether it’s from your partner or a group of friends that you can trust. Not everything has to be solved by yourself. In cases where you are emotionally lost, have someone bring you back up to your feet.
Take a Break:
You are human after all. Not everyone should be grinding their gears and busting their butts all the time, especially when handling a relationship. Taking a break shouldn’t mean the relationship needs to be stopped; rather, give yourself some time to rest, allow yourself to pick up the pace, and adjust your sights.
Meditate:
Not necessarily would you have to do some yoga or any Buddhist way of meditating; rather, reflect on what’s happened with a neutral point of view. Don’t skew anything with your opinions or your reasons; remember the events as what has been done. From then on, analyze what happened to you and how this happened. How did you react to all of this? Were you ever in tune with yourself when you were with your partner? Learning your actions and your behavior can help prevent or minimize the emotional manifestations.
Okay. What Do I Do Now?
Tell your partner the truth. With all that’s happening, it’s more likely your relationship will fail. “But I want this relationship to succeed!” then by all means be honest with each other. Admit that the relationship burnout is taking a toll on both of you. Ask her as well if she feels the same way. Loving each other has its issues, but that’s the point of being in love. Despite the problems, you both will need to find a way to make things work; compromising and allowing each other to breathe can detrimentally improve your relations with each other.
