ADVICE
Should You EVER Trust a Ukrainian Woman?
Trust is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. In fact, it’s pretty foundational and without it, a relationship can implode before it’s fully erected.
Without trust, two people can never really connect because they’re always going to be just a little bit wary of one another. That makes it hard for them to open themselves up to one another.
But trust isn’t something that’s easy for some people and it can be especially hard for men dating Ukrainian women. Maybe some people have been burned in the past or maybe they’re wary of being scammed or maybe they’re wary of mail order brides. Some guys are wary of foreigners in general. For people like that, it’s not easy to build trust.
Maybe you’re one of those people for whom trust is hard to come by. Maybe you’ve got good reason to be wary of other people. Maybe you don’t. In either case, you’re trying to find love in Ukraine, but you’re still wondering — can you trust a Ukrainian woman?
Perhaps there’s something about her profile that’s throwing you off. Maybe you meet her in real life and find that there’s something off about her vibe. Maybe you think that she’s only with you because Ukraine’s gender ratio that skews in favor of females means that you’re her only viable option for male companionship.
Whatever it may be, you’re not sure if trusting her is a good idea. But there are a few ways that you can know if someone is trustworthy. These methods are not one hundred percent guaranteed, but employing them can skew the odds in your favor.
Check out her social media
If you’re online and you come across someone that you think you might like but you hold off on going all in, it’s probably because you’re not sure if they’re a real person or if they’re a sincere one. The idea that it’s some forty-year-old man behind the profile and not the beautiful woman in the picture is in the back of your mind and you can’t quite shake it off.
But there’s one good, if not completely foolproof, way to determine if the woman in the profile picture is the same as the one behind the profile itself. Checking someone on social media is a pretty reliable way to make sure that they’re a real person.
If a person’s entire digital footprint is their dating profile, then that’s not trustworthy. If they do have some type of social media presence, then that’s an indicator that they’re a real person.
If you want to really make sure that they’re real, offer to exchange messages on her social media’s messaging feature instead of the dating app’s messaging feature. That way, you’ll be more assured that you’re actually talking to her instead of a person who crafted an identity based on someone’s public social media profile.
You’re not sure of what she wants
It’s an unfortunate reality but some people start romantic relationships not because they have real feelings for the person that they’re with, but because they like what the person brings them. Maybe it’s money, maybe it’s status, or maybe it’s access to something otherwise inaccessible. Whatever the case, romantic feelings are not the basis of the relationship, but capital is.
If you’re with someone, or thinking about being with someone, and you’re not sure if you’re what they want or if it’s something else that they’re chasing, there are ways that you can find out.
If you’re worried that she might be after your money, then withhold or downplay that money. If you’ve got a nest egg, say that you’re living paycheck to paycheck. If you’ve got more than a nest egg, do not mention it at all. If she’s no longer receptive to your overtures once the prospect of a relative fortune is gone, then you’ll have a pretty good idea of what she was after.
If you’re worried that she might be after a green card, say that you want to move to Ukraine. Say that you want to bring yourself over to her instead of bringing her over to you.
Some women are only with foreign men because they want to leave their country, so removing that option is a great way to see if she wants you and not what you can do for her.
Run the relationship by your friends and family
If you’re not sure if you should trust someone, ask your friends and family. Talk to the people who presumably have your best interests at heart. Seek out their advice and hear what they have to say. They’re going to tell what they think and what they think is going to be based on things that you may not see because your romantic feelings are clouding your judgment.
Trust your gut
If you’re not sure of who to trust, then you need to trust yourself. Or rather, you need to trust your gut. People think that gut feelings are irrational, that they’re not something to be heeded. The truth, in some cases, is very much the opposite.
Gut feelings are the result of your brain processing information on a subconscious level. Basically, your subconscious brain knows something that your conscious brain doesn’t and it’s giving you signals that you should probably listen to.
Jump right in
At some point, you’re going to exhaust all your options when it comes to finding out whether or not someone is trustworthy. Maybe she wants your money. Maybe she sees you as her ticket out of Ukraine. Maybe you’re the only option she’s got.
Or maybe she likes you.
Maybe you just need to jump right in because the most proven method of gauging how trustworthy a person is is to actually trust them and hope that everything goes well.
Trust is a fragile thing. To a lot of people, it’s jealously guarded. To others, it’s given freely. But once broken, it breaks forever. It’s a lot like glass. You can put it back together and it can serve the same function to a reasonable degree. But the cracks will be there. So be careful with your trust.
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