DATING
Are Ukrainian Women Out of Your League?
What is the first thing you think about when you see a gorgeous woman walking alongside a guy who is so obviously out of her league?
What goes through your mind then, when barely 10 seconds after, you see them get into a shiny red Ferrari, rev up the engine to infinity, and race off into the sunset?
One would naturally surmise the following state of affairs — the man is obscenely wealthy, and that girl is only with him for his money. A fair assessment, one taught by history and experience. The scene has been parodied and propagated through nearly all forms of media. It is a common trope, a dating cliché. One that gives out a particular message: if you want to be with a beautiful woman, you need to work hard, get rich, and buy a fancy sports car.
Unfortunately, this form of pep talk doesn’t do much good for a lot of men. It simply reinforces the notion that your most intrinsic qualities aren’t as important or valuable, nor are they worth the time and effort to develop.
So if you are a single man: before you can even consider going way out of your comfort zone to another country in search of a serious romantic partner, we need to address what we are working with — you in all your totality.
Then, we shall offer a solution — dating a woman from Ukraine might not just be a dream, nor simply a possibility. It could be the best thing you could do.
What does “out of your league” even mean?
As a society, we have a natural tendency to put people in boxes. This isn’t necessarily right or wrong, but it is what we do. It is human nature for people to gather in groups based on likeness. Birds of the same feather flock together, if you will.
So when we are out dating, we tend to seek out partners who are in our category. Since physical attractiveness is the initial factor by which we judge people, we mentally calculate whether we fall in the same realm of attractiveness.
So let’s say you’re a regular guy. You’re not exactly Brad Pitt, and you aren’t in the running for the cover of Men’s Health magazine. But you dress alright, you practice good hygiene, and you get along well with other people.
If you see a stunning beauty walk past you on the street, you may think she’s out of your league, looks-wise. You may be right. If you were making a movie, she would be the lead, and you would be the extra.
But why do we think like this? How exactly did we come to this impression?
More likely than not, it’s not the attractiveness per se, but the fact that you don’t believe she would ever give the light of day to a guy like you. What it is is an issue of confidence. You don’t know what she thinks or what she wants. You just assume that because she is hot, she most probably only goes out with equally hot men OR guys with really deep pockets.
You may be right 7 out of 10 times, or whatever number skews against your chances. But travel the world a little bit more, and you’ll realize that you’ve been fishing in the wrong pond all this time.
With Ukrainian women, it’s more than meets the eye.
You have probably heard all sorts of good things about women from Ukraine. Most people would rank them very high on the scale of physical attraction. They possess many admiral feminine qualities. You may also have heard less than savory things about them — that some only seek economic security or even luxury.
They are quite the catch to be certain. But here are a couple of points that should convince you that they are worth pursuing:
First is that they possess a totally different mindset from women from the United States or Western European countries. Whereas more and more American women are subscribing to radical independence and egocentrism, women from Ukraine love the traditional. They want family, a man to love and who loves them back, and they relish the maternal role in the family.
This means that if she can see herself having a happy family life with you, then you are a candidate in her eyes. If you have a stable job and some wits about you, you are definitely in the running.
Second is that they love to be chased. They want to be pursued by men who don’t hesitate to fight for what they want. This means that if you pour in all your effort, stop doubting yourself, and are ambitious, you become very attractive. Be decisive, don’t be weak, and you will notice how much of a chance you actually have with a beautiful Ukrainian woman.
Unfortunately, many men in Ukraine don’t treat their women well. So going the extra mile for them is huge! For them, treating them like the special ladies that they are is a breath of fresh air. Just think about it — all you need to do is treat them well and with respect. That doesn’t cost you anything.
You don’t need a Lambo or a fat bank account to get the job done. What you need is the confidence that you ARE in her league and that you are the catch. Just go online and see how many “ordinary” guys are married to beautiful Ukrainian women. It’s not the money. It’s your character.
Going after Love
The reality is you can never succeed in dating by being passive. Sometimes, you need to close your eyes and take a leap of faith. Ukraine may be thousands of miles away from where you are right now. You may not know a single Ukrainian soul. But what excuse do you have when there are literally thousands of foreign men who have gone the extra mile to win the heart of a beautiful woman from Ukraine and succeeded?
Whether you meet the first one online or in person, make the commitment. You only live once.
At the end of the day, you decide whose league you are in. And no matter the outcome, you will always come out the better for it.
Also by Lubov
