Relationship Issues
Why Relationships Fail and Where It Went Wrong
“There comes a time in a person’s life where they must take responsibility for the choices they have made”
Seeing a relationship fallout is such a sad sight — witnessing someone’s life and glow fade away all because of misunderstandings with their partner. Do you ever have a friend you often see on social media posting their significant other being happy, celebrating occasions, and such? Then suddenly, they stopped. Months passed and they’re unusually quiet; you check out their profiles — “They broke up?!” Astounded by the news, you’re left wondering, what are common reasons why relationships fail?
What Causes Failed Relationships?
Just because couples post some happy or celebratory photos online doesn’t mean they are happy in their relationships. Not everything is as it seems on the surface. As sad as this might sound, not everyone who has been together for as long as 5 or 10 years in a relationship has a happy ending. Here are reasons why a relationship fails despite the couple’s compatibility and love.
Miscommunication or Lack Thereof
Communication is essential in every relationship. Without it, doubt and misunderstanding arise. And if miscommunicated, even small things become a big issue.
For example, a guy who’s busy working comes home tired. He tells his partner that he’s not in the mood because he’s tired, and then falls asleep without so much as an explanation. The woman, thinking the man meant he was tired of the relationship wakes him up and starts an argument. From there, things go from bad to worse.
A common reason why there are so many failed relationships is because of miscommunication. It’s identified as a common reason, yet it’s known as one of the most dangerous and underlooked causes. One person tells their partner something, but they perceive it as something else, so they end up doing another thing, leading to conflict.
And whenever conflicts arise in a relationship, they tend to forget the main objective and go all out fighting each other. One thing leads to another, and then it’s all gone. All because of what? Some misunderstandings result from miscommunication.
Indifference and Falling Out of Love
“Time after time, you seem to brush me off; I understand what we’ve become”
The opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. There’s a painful reason why a relationship fails. When one has grown tired of everything from what’s happening in the relationship, they become indifferent and have lost all passion to make it work. A relationship broken by someone who has fallen out of love usually happens because they’ve run out of patience for their partner, and it is a fate worse than going through a destructive or loud breakup.
Inevitable Circumstances
Sometimes your relationship with your partner was never meant to be. There are things outside of your control and you can’t help but let go of the relationship when the time comes. It’s the saddest reason a relationship would fail because despite how loving and compatible you are with your partner, the outside circumstances prevent you from having a long-term relationship.
Permanently moving to another country or differences in religion and customs are two common circumstances that would ultimately end your relationship.
Infidelity
Cheating on your partner is the most insulting and profane way of ending a relationship. Some couples aren’t content with what they have and they end up seeking satisfaction elsewhere. As humans, we’re never perfect; we can never give our partners a hundred percent of what they want and need, and we can probably provide a generous 80 percent.
But some people are so hyper-fixated on the missing 20 percent, that they start searching for people who can provide what their partners lack. Once they’ve been caught, their partner develops trust issues and it’s a steep hill to regain their trust.
There’s ABSOLUTELY no reason to cheat on your partner; no matter what they did to you or how much they lacked.
Finding Ways to Prevent a Failed Relationship
If you can identify how strong or weak your relationship with your partner is, you still have a chance to prevent it from failing. Of course, it takes two to keep a relationship afloat, so you and your partner need to cooperate and find out how to make your relationship last.
Here’s what you and your partner can do together to help nourish your relationship.
- Openly communicate with each other.
- Be honest with your feelings and thoughts.
- Be frank with your honesty. Avoid sugarcoating and being too blunt.
- Whenever there’s a problem, find the root source and face it objectively.
- Remember to never disrespect each other despite what happens
- Give each other space to breathe and grow.
- Don’t point out flaws that can never be changed within 10 seconds.
Love is perfect, but we, humans, will never be. There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship; that means you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself if you feel like the relationship is drifting apart. Failure is part of life, and knowing the reasons why relationships fail allows you to safely navigate that aspect of life.
