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A Relationship Trial? That’s a Situationship!
“We could’ve been and we try to pretend every now and again
We don’t dream about, don’t think about what we could’ve been”
Have you ever had a friend who’s so intimate and loving with their partner, but when you check their social media they never post about each other? What’s more, the relationship status on their profiles remains single.
What’s up with them? So you ask your friend if they were in a relationship with that person. To your surprise, your friend answered that they weren’t. What was actually going on?
It’s simple. They weren’t really in a relationship with each other; they were merely acting like they were. That’s what is called a situationship.
Situationship? Never Heard of That
What is a situationship? Is that a type of relationship? That’s something new to me.
Well, you’re partly correct. A situationship is a type of relationship where two individuals who share mutual intimate feelings, be it lust or love, are in a pseudo-relationship with no commitment to each other. Basically to make it more understandable, a trial-and-error relationship. They can be someone you know from work or a friend — they could even be someone you just met online.
Usually, this happens when two individuals are not sure if they want to be in a relationship. So they try each other out, see if they are compatible, do the lovey-dovey stuff, and slowly fall for each other. But that isn’t the case most of the time.
There’s Not Just One Kind of Situationship
A situationship might sound complicated enough, but did you know that there are actually different types of situationships? Yikes! These pseudo relationships are parasitical, but for the most part, they’re usually done to fill two people’s void. Here are some of the most famous examples:
Friends with Benefits
Some of you might be familiar with what this is. Usually, it goes by another term, but these days, they now refer to it as FWBs. FWBs are two friends who mutually feel lust and seek intimacy with each other. They know that what they’re doing could potentially ruin their relationship, so they decide to make sure that no feelings will be presented when they get intimate with each other.
The Backburner
A backburner is a type of situationship where you have a potential partner who’s like your last option; whether it’s for romantic, sexual, or platonic activities. Whenever you’re out of people to ask out, you always have that one person in mind you know would never say no to activities of the sort. In hindsight, it’s a sad thing to know that you’re not the first option but the last, but you agree to it anyway.
The Almost a Relationship
You’re close to being in a relationship together with your partner; the vibes, compatibility, and comfort with each other, it’s already there. But there’s just one thing that’s hindering you both from committing to each other. The CIRCUMSTANCES.
Some circumstances stop both of you from committing to each other. It could be a job offer, moving to another state/country, or the both of you couldn’t find time to be with each other. It’s a painful kind of situationship, due to knowing that you’re both great for each other but it just wasn’t meant to be due to things happening outside of your control.
It’s Bad for You
There’s nothing better than being officially together; Having a relationship builds character. However, not everyone is ready to be in one. Humans are humans; they desire connection in any way or form. That means they would resort to methods that seem beneficial for them — even if only for a short while.
I wouldn’t advise being in a situationship if you’re someone who’s looking and yearning to be loved or to anyone who’s emotionally weak. Being in a situationship deviates your perspective on love, dating, and commitments. They’re a temporary fix for a permanent need. You can’t keep stuffing rocks in a pothole all the time right? At some point, the metaphorical road’s potholes need to be repaired, filled, and finished. It’s okay to engage in transactional relationships but it’s never something to do all the time.
Don’t engage in something your heart can’t handle. Receiving temporary love and having your lust fulfilled is not healthy for your heart. And believe me, you wouldn’t want to find yourself falling for someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you.
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